Today we're gonna talk about if you feel like you're drowning in guilt or shame, or you feel like you can never quite fully step into your potential power. Well, it's because you're not honoring the power of your word. This is your invitation. Become the alchemist of your life. You decode your heaven on earth and go through the alchemical process.
The alchemist is a master of himself so that he can master life. People thought alchemists were turning lead into gold, but they're really crystallizing their soul into form alchemized or golden potential. Welcome. You're the Golden Life. Welcome to The Golden Life. My name's David Gilbert. I'm here to help you become the alchemist of your life so you can have the knowledge, tools, and power to transform your life by first transforming yourself.
And today we're gonna talk about what it means to really be the Alchemist. The alchemist is somebody who knows how to transform themselves and we know. Just like how God created the word in the Bible, uh, which is how did God create the word in the Bible by using the power of the word. So to be the alchemist is to use your conscious words, not live in unconscious patterns of others, to powerfully transform yourself.
So what we're talking about is when you go through life and say, I'm committed to being this type of way, or I'm committed to becoming this person because this is the beautiful heaven on earth vision I have to create in my life and for others, well, what are we really talking about? We're talking about integrity, the power to live out your word, and anybody that goes through the alchemical journey knows the one required reading is The Four Agreements by Don McGill Ruiz, because he talks about number one, the first agreement.
Is to be impeccable with your word, and that's what we're talking about today. How can you start to be impeccable with your word? Now you're probably going, David, I'm human. I say things and I don't do 'em. I know we all do. We're all guilty of this. And today you're gonna learn. It's not about. If you can keep your word every single moment, but how when you eventually break those promises, how are you repairing them?
Because if you're constantly breaking promises and not living into those, you're not using the power of your word. Well, I'm sure if you have this vision of how you think you should show up in life, these expectations, and you're constantly not meeting them, well, that's how you know you're drowning in guilt or shame, right?
You have guilt because you thought you were supposed to show up in this way and you can't. And, and shame around it too. Like how can I, like I can never seem to make this change, or I keep hurting these people and saying, I'm gonna do these things, but never do them. And you've forgotten how powerful words are.
And we know words are powerful 'cause let's just take a look at what it means to go through the experience of, of being a human. We go through life. We have some situations as a, as a kid that are hard. We create these stories, which are thoughts, which are words, which are energy and vibration coming out of our mouth.
And that defines who we are. And then we live in this unconscious prison for the rest of our life. And then you're wondering why you can't make that change or why you feel sad all the time? Well, it's because you have this limited belief of who you are, and you're living out this limiting belief constantly because of these unconscious patterns.
And then you wonder why you can't keep your word. Well, if you don't matter, then your word's not gonna matter. And then you're gonna struggle to always keep your word. How do we start to repair this? But it also helps to realize like, why do we want to have more integrity in life? Well, I would argue, this is only my perspective, I would argue by you living in integrity of either who you say you are or who you want to become, that is your source of joy.
That is your source of true fulfillment that nobody can take from you. Like that is a source of power that if you can cultivate that power. You can create any life you want, but more importantly, you can enjoy the freedom on the inside that everybody is craving. So this is where you could see your words, create your reality, right?
Words create worlds, at least your internal worlds. So you can be the artist of your life by learning how to reuse words powerfully. This especially goes for making promises or commitments. This is part of the, you know, executive coaching I do with the meta performance model. This is part of the awaken event I recently went through is being able to acknowledge your promises, being able to practice living out every promise or commitment that you make, but more importantly.
As you know, you're gonna break a promise 'cause we're freaking humans. How do you repair that? Because what do we typically do when we break promises? Right? Oh, we blame somebody else or something else. Oh, it's because the traffic today I was late or, oh, it's because my boss at work. That's why I didn't finish all these things because they were not being nice to me.
Right. We put it externally. Maybe you have kids and, and you blame your kids for something showing up and then maybe they're teenagers and your the resistance to do anything that you say, what's going on there? Well, do you think by continuously projecting blame or whatever it is onto them, is that gonna repair the broken commitment that you made with them and, and repair the relationship?
Usually, no. You just start butting heads. So by you learning how to practice, acknowledging your broken commitments or promises is you can put relationships over the the need to feel good, the need to look good, the need to be in control, and you can really start to have that intimacy or new space for possibility because you are the one courageous enough to repair your broken commitment.
So I invite you to think about somebody in your life. Or maybe some area in life where you have not been transforming, you have not been the alchemist of your life, no matter how hard you try. And we're gonna go through one of the tools I take my clients through called the Growth Process. So if you have a broken commitment or promise, maybe it was to eat healthy, to go work out, uh, to take your kids to go do something fun, I want you to think about that now.
And if you need to pause the podcast, pause the video, get that right now. 'cause I'm gonna take you through a little exercise that will be very powerful for you. And this is called the growth process. So first of all, you're gonna acknowledge what was the broken commitment. So just go ahead, say it out loud.
You're gonna start using your words powerfully, right? So use your words powerfully. I acknowledge that I have broken, I broke the commitment of whatever. Number two is to let yourself know what was more important than keeping your promise right. What was more important than keeping your commitment? So if it was, I didn't take the kids to go do something fun.
Oh, if you're being honest with yourself, you were probably, I don't know, maybe you were wanting to feel good in the moment because you were tired and you didn't have the energy to take 'em to the park. So instead of living that commitment that you made early in the day that you'd take 'em to the park after school, you're like, I'm so tired that I would rather focus on myself feeling good than taking you to the park.
So acknowledge that and then. We get to call bullshit on whatever was the reason that was more important than keeping your commitment. 'cause I know there's different ways I can ask questions. Like, if you were paid a million dollars to go do that thing, would you have done it? You'd be like, hell yeah. I'd take my kid to the park for a million dollars even if I was tired.
Well, there you go. There's a filter to help you realize you were just making excuses. And we make excuses all the time. So don't judge yourself while you're doing it. This is what we do, so let's learn how to work with this, not against this. And then we get to acknowledge what need were you fulfilling. If we simplify it to four needs of looking good, feeling good, being right, or being in control.
Like, which one was it? Oh, I wanted to, to feel good. I, I was tired. I didn't wanna go to the park. I wanted to be in control. I wanted to be in an environment where I was in control and not at the park where there's other kids and parents. I gotta yada, yada, yada, outside my control. Okay, let's acknowledge that and then this is where we get to have fun.
How is this a pattern in your life? Where else does this show up? And this is where you get to help create space. Sometimes it helps to have a coach or a facilitator to guide you through that process because this is where our ego or personality, our blind spots, will like to try to stay blind spots.
They'll be like, no, we're good. We don't do that anywhere else in life. So by having somebody kind of press you against it, we'll force you to look at things in a new perspective. This is also an opportunity to get feedback if you are a bold, courageous alchemist, somebody who's committed to your own transformation.
Well, there's a way to get instant data from the universe, and that is to ask or loved ones or friends or coworkers. I. How else do I show up with this pattern in life? And they will be happy to tell you and they will see it, and you will most likely resist it right away because your ego doesn't want to hear that because it has its own view of what you think, how you show up in the world versus the reality.
I. Uh, but that's a whole nother process. And then from there it comes back to what is this costing you? If you continuously show up in this certain way and continuously break your promises, what is this costing you? And this is another one. You could pause the podcast or video right now and like, just journal on this alone.
Because if you're wondering why you're, you're struggling to create the transformation, maybe you know you're limiting beliefs, but you're still struggling. Well, it's because you haven't let the full pain of the cost. Settle in, you're still putting up a wall to feeling that fully or kind of pushing it away.
So let yourself feel that pain because if you feel that pain enough, your brain is gonna want to break and be like, we have to create change in life. Like we can't take this much pain anymore. So let yourself feel that pain fully once again, this is where having somebody to push you to go a little bit further always helps.
And then finally. Come back to your vision, or, or why did you commit to this in the first place? What was that commitment? And then go from there. Right? As, as the Alchemist, you have this vision, the golden life. Your, your golden vision for the future and who you are and the impact you're making on the world.
So what was the commitment that came from that? Right? If it's with your kids, I want to, my vision is to be the, the legacy of the best present father who just creates joy and empowers them to be better humans. Okay. That's my vision. Am I committed to this? Yes. Okay. Now I can go and recommit to this vision because we know we're gonna mess it up.
And then there's another process of being able to ask when you break a commitment of being able to ask. First of all, acknowledge going to your, in this example, go to your kids, say, I'm sorry little Johnny. I broke my commitment to take your, take you to the park. It was more important for me to feel good than to take you to the park.
I'm sorry about that. Let me know. How did that impact you and how did that make you feel? And you might be like, whoa, yes. This is the more powerful way to show up in life, to just fully own your mistakes and then re like learn, not by guessing, by directly asking how did it impact you? And then you get to ask for forgiveness.
Then you get to move forward in life. And if you can do that consistently, you will feel an entire new level of freedom, of love, of fulfillment, because you're living in the power of your word. And if your words create words or the words create your reality. Well, you are gonna start to powerfully create your own world.
So I'm excited for you to put this into place. This is part of what it means to become the Alchemist, to be committed to who you're being or who you're becoming, to create the vision at hand. And this is gonna be one of the most powerful tools to deepen your intimacy, to help you make more money, to put you back in alignment with better health.
So I'm excited for you to put this into practice and stay golden.
